"Not in their goals but in their transitions

are people great." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

There's no getting around it: Life is transition, from cradle to grave. By the time

we're 40, we have grown up, left home, been educated, started and possibly

changed careers. Within the realm of relationship alone, transitions can include

marriage, divorce, parenthood, changes in health, sexual issues, incarceration,

military deployment, caring for our aging parents, and more.


Unfortunately for some, abuse has also been part of life; and while it may have

occurred in childhood, we can remain trapped by it in adulthood.


It is important to examine how transition, loss, and grief were demonstrated

to us in our family of origin - because that is likely how we handle our own losses

today.

Author Pauline Boss, PhD, has stated: "Closure only occurs in real estate."

Ambiguous losses are those that are likely to be unrecognized by society, such as

the loss that accompanies adoption; still birth, suicide, abortion, or murder;

incarceration of a loved one; immigration; and many more. If we are not

permitted to grieve our losses, we suffer with unresolved grief,

which shows up in other areas of our life in surprising ways. Sometimes,

we do not understand why certain situations or people evoke from us seemingly

disproportionate reactions. These reactions may be the result of unresolved grief

from ambiguous loss.  

I want to help you connect those dots, grow in self-awareness, and

effectively manage your transitions. 

 


When exploring loss, we quickly stumble upon our beliefs. These beliefs form our

views of the world. They are like a pair of glasses that we put on every single

day, affecting how we interpret everything that we see and experience. Beliefs

become attachments which we hold to varying degrees, for good or ill.

It is impossible to overestimate the control that attachment, loss,

and grief hold over us. Suffering comes when we do not recognize

our attachments and we fail to complete the necessary tasks of grieving our losses.



"Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other's eyes for an instant?"

-Henry David Thoreau

The pain passes, but the beauty remains. - ​Pierre Auguste Renoir

Let's take a journey together, uncovering forgotten pieces of your life; discovering hidden strength; and recovering hope and joy for the days ahead.  

With me you will find compassion, encouragement, gentle humor, and the desire and belief for your wholeness.

loss and transition


"We have to live today by what truth we can get today, and be ready tomorrow to call it falsehood." -William James

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